I was at the bank the other day when an interesting thing happened. I had someone in the car with me and we managed to find a parking spot just outside the bank.
A lady double parked behind my car and went into a store next door. When I was finished at the bank, I approached this person in the store and politely asked her to move her car. I got attitude. No apology for blocking my car. Just attitude. This lady got into a huff at now having to move her car and was upset that I was even in the parking lot. Perhaps I should have double parked like her? She just ranted, avoiding eye contact with me and then got a store staffer to move her car for her.
In any case, I decided to ignore this and went back to my car.
When I went back to my car, I found out that she had approached my friend to move the car earlier – but we were already parked. She tooted her horn repeatedly and then got down to ask whether my friend was going to move the car. No, he wasn’t. She then went into the store.
When I came out of the bank and asked her to move, she must have been frustrated at the development. She acted, however, as if double parking was her right and that we were in the wrong. I didn’t want to get into a thing with her, and at this point, was unaware of the conversation between my friend and her. The typical response in these sorts of situations would undoubtedly result in an exchange of insults and road rage. I have witnessed on many occasion, that people are loathed to take the time to think through an issue and act calmly. It’s just so much easier to react. It’s just so much easier sometimes to blow up and cool down later. In fact, my friend was very irritated with her attitude and wanted to just tell her to get her car and move. Clearly, she was in the wrong having double parked instead of locating a proper car spot.Clearly, she was unhappy that we had taken a parking spot.
And it got me thinking. I had thought what I thought based on my experience of the situation. And that lady had her views based on her perception of that situation.
How much better would things be if we could factor other people’s views into the actions we take. It doesnt mean we dont prioritise what we need to do, when we need to do it. But we look to beyond our own experiences in making our decisions. It would just be the sensible thing to do.
Perhaps this is harder for some than for others.