I saw a movie review clip yesterday and heard something interesting.
In the moment
John Lee Hancock, who directed the movie, The Blind Side, starring Sandra Bullock and Tim McGraw, said in an interview, “The choices you make say a lot about where you are at that point in your life.”
Now that is an interesting observation.
For many, this is such an obvious statement but sometimes what is really obvious may not be truly seen even when it’s right in front of you. We do live full, busy lives and it takes effort to live a life of purpose. By that I mean, where every action and thought is prefaced by meaning, foresight and planning. We cannot approach every aspect of our lives like this and there are portions of our daily lives that we live on an automatic mode. But if we do take the time periodically to look back at our choices, both small and big, it really will point us to where we are, at that point in time. Our reflection on these choices will give us greater insight than we had, at the time we made those choices too.
What we need to do ever so often, is take the big picture view, to hover over our busy lives and really look to see what actions we’ve taken and whether we really do want to make the choices we’ve made to date. This applies not just in our personal lives but in choices at work as well. I know this is hard.
Isn’t it much easier to wring your hands and complain or say that you have no control? Temporarily, it feels good and when you hear your friends do the same, the mutual feelings bond you together and help make things easier to deal with it. But it is temporary. Nothing good comes easily as we all know but you do reap the rewards of your efforts. A well-crafted life is one you will live, and in time, live not to regret.
Sometimes, you might be given two choices about a decision. Go left and decide against it and you’re left with regret. Go right and pursue it and you might be wracked by guilt. Many people grapple with these feelings on a daily basis for simple and complicated things.
This is where a determined purposeful approach helps.
Think about what you want.
Be clear about it and make a choice.
Once you’ve made your mind up, stick with it.
Be happy and embrace your decision.
What is the point in making a decision if you then proceed to spend the rest of the time regretting your choice or being ridden by guilt?
It ruins your experience.
It makes a mockery of your decision process.
It saps you emotionally and mentally and….
You are stuck in limbo.
Truthfully, this happens because you’ve made a choice but not really accepted the choice, thus leaving you open to doubt, guilt and indecision. There are no right or wrongs for your decision but there’s a right way to how to process this. There’s a way to do this that can really help you live a better life, personally and professionally.