Because there probably is one. It’s really a case of whether you’re ready for it or not.
There’s two ways of looking at things, isn’t there? One way is to think that everything that happens, just happens. It’s a coincidence or fate or because it just does.
Or you think that everything that happens, does so for a reason. I believe in the latter. I can’t profess to understand or grasp exactly how the whole system comes into play and runs so smoothly. Neither do I understand how you get those a-ha moments you tend to have years later about any particular issue or episode. You know what I mean – you look back at the problem and suddenly everything seems to make sense from where you stand right now. But it didn’t back then and now, here you are and what you see seems to all click into place.
I don’t get that. But maybe I am not supposed to…
Over the years, I find that when I am faced with a particular challenge, and am not very good at handling it or putting it to closure, it keeps cropping up. I’ll have settled the issue with one person but the lesson keeps surfacing with other people and other circumstances. Now that I’m open to this interpretation, I am able to see this much more clearly. It’s almost like an out of body experience as you watch yourself live the experience out and then talk to yourself about what you really ought to see here. The lesson keeps cropping up until you deal with it. Until you solve it and get past it.
So, if you find that you’re stressed, ask yourself what exactly you are stressed about. Don’t look purely to the surface stuff ie the argument of the day or the particular circumstance. Take a step back and see what you’re not getting right there. Is it an attitude? Is it a perception? Is it a value you hold? Why that particular emotion? Why does this particular thing set you off? Then see if this is something that perhaps you’ve had to deal with before and be honest about whether you feel that you’ve dealt with it well.
If you read it like there’s a lesson to be learnt, somewhere in there, there’s a good chance, you might get it. In the process, you’ll be relieved of a little stress too.
Tip #1. Slow down
Tip #2. Accept what you’re faced with
Tip #3. Create a list. Then make a plan.
Tip #4. Take some time off
Tip #5. Prioritise
Tip #6. Realise what to be grateful for
Tip #8. Do the work
Tip #10. The knowing-doing gap