It is because everything is not to be had purely on the word. Language is important but so are the other signals we give out like our demeanour and body language. Sometimes, these conflict and this is apparent to others looking in. Is communicating about getting your message across or really grasping what the other person is saying? Sometimes, I believe we get so engrossed in getting our message across, that we fail to realise that communication is a two way street. If we pound and pound at it, does it help to make it more real? If we shout it from the mountaintop, does that give it greater credence? Shouting our message across doesn’t really help because no one will really listen. We could try whispering but that will involve letting go. Letting go of the notion that you will be heard, that you will be listened to. I think that with everything in life, there is some aspect of letting go that we need to embrace. We need to seize the moment, we need to live in the moment and we need to act and be quite apart from the reactions and consequences of our actions as they play out. It is hard because we are subjective creatures, with our own life experiences colouring our perception of events and people. What can make this process of communicating easier? 1. Be willing to listen. Be open to suspending your own thoughts for a while to really hear what the other person is saying. 2. Be willing to consider things from another person’s perspective. Live their life for a while, walk in their shoes. 3. Patience. Try and try again. 4. Don’t think too much when someone is talking. You need to hear them and you can’t when you’re busy formulating thoughts on partially comprehended information.