I watched an interesting movie a few days ago. How Do You Know is tagged as a romantic comedy, starring Reese Witherspoon, Paul Rudd and Owen Wilson. I can’t say that I was expecting much to begin with but it was a couple of notches up from the usual drivel served.
Great one liner
One takeaway – a one liner from the psychiatrist played by Tony Shalhoub. Reese’s character goes in to see the psychiatrist and then changes her mind. Before she leaves, she asks him a vague question – whether he might have any sort of general advice for her, based on all the experience he’s had and what he’s seen from his clients, to deal with just about anything that life might throw. Wow – if only.
To which the psychiatrist answers positively, “Figure out what you want, and learn how to ask for it.”
It sounds so firm and definite. Like this really was the answer to it all. But then, thinking about it further, I began to see its impact.
How many times can you say that you really do know what you want? Haven’t you ever come across a situation where you’ve asked for something, gotten it and then realised that this was not really what you wanted in the first place? How often do you need to get something or someone and then realise its true impact?
That said, its really not that easy to figure out what you want, certainly not all of the time. In your career, from your job or in your life. You have to live and figure that out as you go along, exploring different roads in that journey. You cant possibly have the answer to that at the beginning of your experience for what would it be based upon?
And learning how to ask for it? We all have issues with this in some form or other.
Knowing who to ask of it. Knowing when to ask for it. Accepting that you could ask of it. Figuring out how to ask for it.
That one line is but the tip of the iceberg, isn’t it?