I came across an article in the Saturday Star recently entitled ‘That Sublime Moment’ by Isabelle Anscombe. Isabelle quoted Dorothy Rowe, author of ‘Wanting Everything : The Art of Happiness’ as saying : the biggest block we put on finding happiness for ourselves is the fear of taking responsibility for our own lives, fear of change, fear of confronting the unspoken rules that we have absorbed from parents, teachers or society. But in living, there are no experts.
Dorothy Rowe and the Art of Happiness
Dorothy insists that our understanding of ourselves is our own truth, our only certainty in a world of uncertainties.
It seemed as if Dorothy was talking to me. So effortlessly she summed up so much of life learning that I was left to wonder how long it took for her to come to this point.
There is so much truth in what she says. We hold the key, don’t we? It’s not external events, its not the neighbour, it’s not even about tomorrow. It’s about us and how we position things in our own little head and how we ask the right questions of ourselves and make sense of stuff that happens. I really do agree that this shouldering of responsibility, of putting the job of finding our own path and finding our way, squarely on ourselves, is the best way for ourselves. It gives us control and power. We don’t control what happens to us but we certainly have control over how we deal with it.
There’s only ever one of each of us in the world. We have to live and experience life and grow. In the process, we learn, we apply and we transform. It makes perfect sense to have self possession and confidence and say, ‘I have faith in my experiences and the lessons it brings me’.
We can and should only live our lives as best as we can, being true to who we are.
We owe it to ourselves not to replicate another or be somebody else, famous or successful or good.
We owe it to ourselves to simply become better versions of who we are.