I???ve come to realise that there are some things you just can???t rush. The problem is that oftentime, when you look back at your choices and how you???ve dealt with circumstances, it???s easy to see how you could have done things differently. The passage of time and the fact that the incident is now behind you (safely) somehow makes you feel cleverer. But you were there at that point in time and sadly, did not see things then, the way you do now. Strange how hindsight works.
Anyway, the realisation I???ve come to is that not everything can be rushed. There is a process to learning and understanding that comes with time and experiences. in a way, there is a process to becoming more like the you that you aim to be. Like a well-made curry, everything in its place and time. Every element has a part to play. A rushed effort shows itself in the finished product or the final outcome. And, more important than anything else, is what I tend to call the process of distilling. You need the empty spaces, you need the solitude and you need the distance. It changes perspectives and it gives hope.
So, rush if you must on the minor things in life. Rush to carry out tasks and activities but slow down when it comes to decisions about your life, your career, your relationships. The inevitable corollary of this has to be an acceptance that whatever you do, you accept the place and time in the results you???ve achieved. You rest in the understanding that perhaps there is a reason to why it happens in the way that it does; yet, this does not indicate a passive acceptance of what happens to you and does not preclude an active participation in the life you call your own.