I know this. I live it daily, in the life I lead and the work I do. Sure, some of us might have taken a few shortcuts here and there. I am not talking about the drive to work. I am talking about big decisions, life-changing decisions, decisions that lead to fulfillment, happiness or peace (or all of the above).
I used to think before that if you could take a shortcut, you should indeed. But then over time, I have seen with successful people, and successful endeavours, that most everything of value or of beauty, takes time and effort. And it takes patience and persistence to see it through to the end. It is the kind of patience that comes with dealing with stuff one thing at a time. One day at a time. Slowly and regularly. Take for example, an athlete. It???s great to see their well-toned body and think, oh, if only that were me. It???s easy to look at it, in the minute and reflect on what is right before you at that point. But it took months, if not years, of solid dedication, of untold sacrifice to get to that point. What you see is what he wants you to see.
How much did he have to give up? What changes did he have to make? What hard decisions did he take that led to that point? Furthermore, none of these would be decisions in isolation. You decide on something and then you have to act on it and you have to do it every day. Talk about mindfulness. Having your decision slap you in the face every day. Challenge you every day to see whether you are serious about what it is that you have decided.
The successful ones give up a lot to get to where they want to be. But they accept the sacrifices as part of the process. They don???t fight against it. They accept it, with body and mind and then move on, with that. They get into the flow. What makes it hard is when you make a decision, but it???s a decision without conviction ??? almost because you have to or are pressured to. So, you don???t accept it or you accept it with no conviction leading to blowing the deal at every point. It is easy to cave at each of these points because you are not really there. The fight has not been won yet and you???re just blowing in the wind.
So, if its something seriously great that you???re after, and great is as you???ve defined it, then be prepared that you will have to put the hard yards in. There???s no two ways about it. If someone has convinced you that there???s a shortcut, they are lying or deluded.