I am stuck. I keep making the same mistakes. I keep wanting to make the change but the change is upon me very slowly. So slowly, I can’t help but feel that there is no change. It is precisely at moments like these that I know I need to buckle down anyway, harder than ever before.
The problem? It’ always much harder before it gets easier.
That is what I know – it has to be hard before it gets easy and if it starts out easy, it most probably will get harder towards the end, if that makes sense.
Do it, don’t do it, no one cares.
Whatever you are trying to achieve is something you are trying to achieve, not anyone else. Therefore, whether you do or you don’t is… largely irrelevant to those around you. You must find the impetus to move forward, you must find within, the reason and drive for what you want to achieve or it will not work.
Understand that it takes many, many failures before you see real progress.
When you watch a movie, you see a lifetime go by in a two hour session. We skip the crappy bits, we hone in on the sensational and the good and there is so much that is glossed over. How unreal real ife appears in contrast … with the long periods of toil or worry or progress of time, interspersed with occasional bouts of excitement or adventure. Fiction and entertainment have a way of making what is real seem unappetising.
Real progress is slow. You can feel yourself struggling through each and every moment, wondering if it will last as long as it does, and it does. But like learning to ride a bike, at one point, you will get the hang of it and you will ride. And so it is with failures. You simply must stick it out, hope for the best, concentrate on getting back on the bike and at some point, you will ride. You will turn the corner.
Keep it in front of you.
So long as you are mindful of what you want to achieve, it will be yours for the taking. You need to have this in your mind, on a daily basis. It needs to be central to what you are doing.
It is much harder when you have an idea of a grand plan, an ideal situation to gun for. The time frame is much longer and the more time you take, the more will be at stake and the greater the loss you will feel in anticipation. Don’t work towards some grand plan in that regard. Work to make small changes, baby steps you can master over a day or a week. It needs to be real change that you can see quickly.
Sometimes you need to cut loose.
Get it out of your system.
Then get back on the saddle.