With a newborn in tow, and two young kids, it’s safe to say that my stress levels have increased. Alongside the stress is a level of fear as well. Every situation presents an opportunity for you to put your best foot forward and when you battle sleep deprivation, an increased amount of childcare alongside the other daily demands of work and chores, these opportunities merely showcase the areas in which you lack skill, patience and mindfulness.
Your back is against the wall, the margins for error are reduced and time is simply not on your side. You have a range of technological devices and platforms now available, that was simply not the case, years ago and yet, though life has become simpler, it tends not to feel that way. Instead, you feel like a mouse on a wheel and it’s constantly turning round and round.
And then it hits you. Why fear creates this rising panic, this melancholy, this pervasive sense of doom.
1. You’re simply dealing with the emotional impact of fear and stopping there.
When you are in fear, examine why. Really examine what the root cause is and be honest with yourself. Consider things from a number of perspectives. Turn the problem on its head. Once you do that, the fear is reduced.
2.Consider your worst case scenario and deal with it.
When you consider what is causing your fear, think about what the worst thing could be. Sometimes, it is pretty bad. But most times, its the fear of fear that is more debilitating. Once you confront the worst possible option, things seem to open up.
3. Have a plan.
The best way to get rid of fear is to come up with a plan. Figure out what’s broken or what needs to be fixed or what needs to be done. Make a plan to deal with it. As soon as you start making a plan, start doing something, the fear starts to go away. Action puts you back in control.
4. Just do it.
Nothing revs you up more than just getting in there and doing it. Doing what needs to get done. Doing what you’ve been fearing. It’s the moment things get out of your head and get into the realm of what’s real. And when you do that, fear dissolves.