Just because you can does not mean that you should

Just because you can fire someone by email or phone does not mean it is the most sensitive way of presenting your decision.

Just because you can text your friend that you can’t make it to her wedding after confirming that you will does not mean that it was the most tactful way of bowing out.

Just because you can leave a message on your colleague’s phone about how you felt she handled that explosive meeting does not mean that it was the most effective way of handling an already delicate situation.

Frequently, you will see that people use a particular platform because it best serves their immediate need and simply, because they can.

It’s easier to fire someone by email because you don’t have to deal with their outburst and anger. It’s easier to text your friend that you can’t make it to their wedding because you don’t have to convey the news in person especially since its so hard to do. It’s easier to leave a message than have to talk to someone especially if there’s things to be said that you might not want to hear.

But while such behaviour may serve an immediate need, consider its long term effects not only to yourself but to those around you.

Doing something you are unsure about, that you feel badly about, that you know is not your usual approach and against what you feel inside is usually only hard that first time. There’s a battle going on inside, between doing what you know you should do and what you know you prefer doing. But once you open the gates, the next time is easier …until a new path is created. And a different layer of you is born.

Is this the you that you really want to present to those around you?

Is this the best you have to offer, regardless of how challenged you may feel?

Is this really how you would want to be remembered?


About rowena morais

Media Communications and Editorial Specialist. With my strong professional network of contacts, I help individuals and organisations, particularly those within Human Resource and Technology, strengthen their skill-base and brand through compelling writing, beautiful design, content marketing and publishing. Let's talk.

One response to “Just because you can does not mean that you should

  1. jennyblandford

    It happen so frequently that it became an exceptable act. With all the channel from the various social media available it does formulate an easy way of reaching out than actually speaking in person. Personally i feel it a way to escape an only a weak person will do so. One can send an email or a text message but definetly should follow up with a personal call, regardless how delicate or sensitive the situation or topic maybe. We are human, not robot and the approach should be real not just an imprint of words.


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