3 signs you’re not who you think you are.

In my last post, I said that, ‘the quest for a greater degree of mindfulness is driven by the disparity between how I see myself in my mind’s eye and who I am in reality’.

There’s the picture you paint to yourself of who you think you are. And then there’s the reality of who you are. It’s seldom the case that you are able to marry the two smoothly, successfully and seamlessly.

You are more than the sum of your parts. And you are more than your thoughts, words and actions.

So, what do you do when who you think you are and who you really are don’t match up? Can you tell when the two are misaligned? I believe there are at least three signs to look out for to confirm that you’re not who you think you are.

1. Others are telling you.

When others come forward and give you an indication of how they see you, it’s good to take notice. Balance the view against your own, of course, but just be open and consider it. If enough come forward, telling you the same thing, perhaps there’s something there, don’t you think?

2. You’re not getting the results you thought you’d get.

Something’s not quite right if you are not achieving what you’ve set out to do. There are external obstacles, surely. But frequently, you get in the way of yourself. You have the opportunity and the gift to do something with your life and how you choose to do so is up to you. The question is whether you see this as opportunity or challenge and whether you see yourself in control of your situation or not. If you feel that you’re led by your situation instead of leading it, then the lack of control will mean that you don’t get to present yourself in a way that aligns with who you are inside.

3. You’re not happy.

The beauty of emotion? You just go with it. There’s usually an explanation for it, but you just go with it. You’re not as rational as you’d like to think. Emotions are a powerful indicator of who you are and how you feel, whether you’d like to admit it or not. It’s an internal barometer.


About rowena morais

Media Communications and Editorial Specialist. With my strong professional network of contacts, I help individuals and organisations, particularly those within Human Resource and Technology, strengthen their skill-base and brand through compelling writing, beautiful design, content marketing and publishing. Let's talk.

2 responses to “3 signs you’re not who you think you are.

  1. Hi Jeff
    Sorry it’s been disappointing. I guess the process of finding my voice and also writing at length is a lot harder than I imagined. I am viewing this as a journey and expect it will take time and probably there will be as many disappointments as there are joys along the way. Hopefully, you may stick around for the ride. Was there a particular theme you were expecting me to touch on?


  2. Jeff

    I don’t know what to say. I’m rather disappointed with this one. The topic very intriguing but the article – rather elementary.


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