Every experience presents an opportunity.
We cannot choose what happens to us. Sometimes, the way things happen, it looks like there may be a sequence to things or there may be a myriad number of ways we can impact on a situation. But by and large, I believe we don’t choose what happens to us, we are merely on the receiving end.
We do, however, choose how we respond.
There are times when emotion gets the better of us and we react.
There are times we believe we are almost forced into a particular response.
And there are also times when once we’ve had time to digest and consolidate, we realise that we could have done better.
Karla Begley is the mother of a son with autism. She received a shocking letter aimed at her son. Karla could have responded in a number of ways. She could have responded like with like – with hate and vitriol. Yet, she chose the higher ground. She chose to wipe out ignorance. She chose to think about how best to act.
It’s easy to respond quickly and to react. We don’t need to try hard to do that because it is in our nature. That automatic mode, that unreflective mode. And it is hard to choose to do things differently. Sometimes, that is a road you walk alone.
But don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t have choice. Because you do.