A situation can be read in a number of ways. Ideally, you should extract the facts. This, while seemingly innocent, is sometimes, more complicated than it seems. Facts should just lay things out the way it is – a fact is something that has really happened or that is actually the case. There are times, however, where you might confuse fact with opinion.
Your opinion of the situation differs from the facts in that it presents how you read the situation. And depending on where you come from, what your day was like, how well you have read the situation, extracting fact from fiction, and your experience in reading the situation, you might :-
- see facts for what they are;
- have opinions about things and then consider them as facts;
- mistake fact for opinion or vice versa;
- or all/any one or two combos of the above.
What is clear though is that, if you bring emotional baggage to the situation, it will affect how well you read the situation.
We’d all like to think we are far more neutral, independent minded and rational than we really are.
We’d all like to think that our emotional baggage doesn’t get in the way of our interpreting events, situations or conversations.
But they do. And it can prove disastrous if you don’t watch out for it.