Perspectives have a funny way of influencing your emotion and mindset. But quite noticeably, perspectives can be changed… if you have chosen not to close things off.
And once you do that, what looks insurmountable or downright depressing, suddenly morphs into quite a different picture again.
And life is unpaused, you gain your breath back and your muscles begin to relax.
How did you not think about it like this yesterday?
The thing is this : life is comprised of many things including (if you are open to seeing it this way) a series of obstacles that you need overcome. One way to look at it is to consider that every person gets a different set of obstacles. We get the obstacles we need, if that makes sense.
From the outside looking in, one might be forgiven for thinking, that most of us face the same obstacles. But the combination of so many varying factors, ranging from our upbringing, culture, appetite for risk, mindset, education, life philosophy, mental health and much more, can twist and turn these obstacles and our responses into a myriad number of experiences and results.
The point : Life already presents many obstacles… real ones that plague you and can potentially pull you under. Obstacles that cannot be resolved in a day. That being the case, you should not put more obstacles in your way.
What are you talking about, you may say? When and why would you do that?
- When you second guess yourself.
- When you choose to give in to your fears.
- When you quit before you’ve even started.
- When you know what it is that you need to do/change/think/act and yet, choose silence/apathy/herd mentality/go with the flow/wait for the next person.
- When you choose indecision. Needing time to think is fine as long as you have a timeframe in mind. Holding off a decision for some indefinite timeframe is the same as deciding because indecision is a decision. It’s just that it will seem that the results are circumstantial and therefore it may present an opportunity for you to absolve yourself of responsibility. No one is watching. No one knows the truth. Except you.
- When you approach the problem thinking you can see the end result already and you’ve seen the end negatively.
- When you play devil’s advocate – but here’s the kick – not to help you bolster your case but instead, to help you break your own case down. Why would you need an adversary – you can do your job, and theirs!
- When you choose to focus on the problem – the emotional toll, the verbal baggage and the mental journey instead of how you could resolve the issue. This is a case of “Why me?” (it’s energy sapping and never gets you the answer you want or need) rather than “What can I do about this?” (mindblowingly energy boosting and the proactivity will lead to heightened resourcefulness and unconventional thinking).
Nobody has it easy. If it appears that way, you’re probably looking at the wrong things. Or they’ve spent a lot of time to ensure you see it that way.
“Into every life, some rain must fall.”
If you already have real obstacles you need to face in order to renew, grow and strengthen, then your best efforts and your state of mind need to be focused on those obstacles.
Work on them and move them out of your way. Don’t add to your obstacles by putting new ones before you.
Anything, anything is possible.