Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony – Mahatma Gandhi
There are times you hear statements people make and they just whoosh right over you. A couple of lines in a book you’ve read maybe. A line from a movie. Then you hear it again, at a different time and suddenly it clicks.
Why is it that sometimes you hear things that don’t seem to make as much sense to you then as they do to you now? What is it then about some things that suddenly ring true?
It is the sum total of your experiences that makes the difference. It is hardly ever the one act, experience or statement. Everything you have gone through in your life, every conversation, every inflection point, every relationship, every thing seemingly insignificant has had a part to play.
It’s hard for you to see the connections between all these points but that is because it’s all a little bit of a puzzle and you can’t see the final picture immediately, can you? It’s kind of the way hindsight works as well – it all seems to make so much sense after the fact, doesn’t it?
My point? I have come across the quote above a number of times, over the years and it didn’t really hit home before. But I can truly see the point of this statement now and I whole-heartedly believe it. I came to this realisation myself, in my own time, based on the experiences I went through.
So, how is this relevant?
Firstly, this is why sometimes, advice seems unnecessary. Whether requested or not, advice can sometimes just be a whoosh over someone’s head. Maybe, the point is that people need to go through their own learning curve to come to the realisations they need to arrive at, at their own pace. Having wisdom pointed out to you, wisdom summarised in neat sentences may just not make sense or may not be palatable.
Secondly, it’s not so relevant that you arrive at the realisation that others may come to, either before or after you. It is that you arrive at that realisation at all.