It’s strange to see myself write about this. I used to find it a little funny to hear others talk about finding themselves. But it makes sense in a crowded world, when there’s so much pulling our attention. The tendency is to believe that you should already know yourself – as you go through life and a vast set of experiences. But age and experience in itself do not do anything without the time taken to reflect and without our ability to cross reference and draw insight from a myriad number of thoughts, feelings and experiences.
If you choose to go through your experiences without putting yourself to bear, almost like a spectator in your own life, how then do you find your voice? If you go through your experiences and mimic the choices and decisions of those with louder, stronger voices than your own, how then do you find your voice?
By being true to yourself. By understanding that before you can call on anyone else to accept you and your choices, you must first do this yourself.
By knowing what you will stand for and what you won’t. People will come and go. They will make choices and sometimes, these choices will impact on you. If you do not determine the parameters, the boundaries of your existence, then you will fall or move with changing tides. And unhappiness and a kind of restlessness will follow.
By accepting that while you may get it right sometimes, at other times, you may very well, get it wrong. And that’s ok by you. It is not to be feared, only accepted as part of that decision.
By risking a little and sometimes, a lot. By experimenting. By trial and error. By freely jumping in.
By accepting that this is a journey, not a destination. There’s really no fixed end game here. And things may change on this journey, which is fine by you.
By just doing it. The simple act of refusing to overthink a situation, a reaction and a decision and to just move. To take it beyond theory and words and possibility and move things into the realm of action. Into movement and consequence.
So, go out there and find your voice. Embrace it. Bring it to bear.
You will be glad you did.