Never Feeling Good Enough … Why Your Self-Esteem Matters More Than You Think

It’s insidious how much of your life can be infected by a low regard of who you are and what you’re capable of.

There are so many tipping points at which your self-worth can be assessed, raised, monitored and flatly, demolished. Your family, your school, your buddies, peer pressure, the books you read and the things you watch. There’s no way you can keep track of each and every one of these points of impact because, simply, that’s exactly what they are. These people, circumstances, relationships and assets can have such power over you, but only if you let allow them to. But no one keeps track of who is saying what, what that means as part of some bigger picture and then more importantly, recalibrating at each one of these impact points.

These tipping points, they slam right into you, hurling you right through a tumble of emotions and frankly, you go with the flow. And if many say it loud enough, long enough, it begins to wear you down.

Not good enough.

How do you go anywhere from there?

Well, there’s only one way and that’s if you decide so. If you decide that you’re not good enough, then there’s chance for movement. You make an assessment, which leads to a decision, either way and then making that come into the fold. You can move from there.

But if you let them decide that for you, you simply give your power away and there’s no coming back from there unless you take that power back into your rightful hands.

People and circumstances can have such unimaginable impact on us and our lives.

But, in truth, it should be ourselves that have the biggest impact on us. It ought to be.

So that

.. we can live a life that’s true;

… we can live without regret;

… we can make the decisions that move us forward and bring meaning.

It’s hard to fathom that what they say can have such power, that what they say could actually come or be true.

But suspend that, for a second, while you ponder how well and deeply they know the person inside you, the person who’s trying every day to be closer and truer to the person that others see. Ponder on whether they get it. Ponder on whether the end result matters to them as much as it does to you.

And in that second, you will come to realise that how, what and why you strive makes all the difference to you, not them.

You simply cannot be judged by what is seen, there is so much embedded deep within, waiting for the opportunity to shine. What is seen doesn’t do enough justice to what is unseen.

And so …

you are good enough,

as you are,

right now.


Keep walking on that journey.


About rowena morais

Media Communications and Editorial Specialist. With my strong professional network of contacts, I help individuals and organisations, particularly those within Human Resource and Technology, strengthen their skill-base and brand through compelling writing, beautiful design, content marketing and publishing. Let's talk.

One response to “Never Feeling Good Enough … Why Your Self-Esteem Matters More Than You Think

  1. vincent bradbury

    Thanks for posting that. Very upbeat, inspiring and true. I enjoy reading your blog


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