There’s two parts to ‘ask first’, in no particular order.
Ask the question upfront. This means cutting to the chase though, which you may at times prefer not to do. You may want to build up to a story to entice, to draw someone in. Asking the question doesn’t allow you the time to set the scene but if you feel that the person you are dealing with, is a bottom line kind of person, this may just work the trick.
Ask permission for what it is that you are about to do, to say, to request. To do so though, you must be prepared to face that ‘ocean of rejection’. Time and time again. One down, on to the next.
Some people can handle that. And some can’t. Figure out where you stand and then act accordingly.
Either way, to do this shows respect for the other person’s time.
This is part of a series of 20 posts on How I Ensure I Respect Your Time.