Kill fear. Do it anyway.

Blank page.
Many things to say.
None seem worthwhile though.
And so you keep quiet, moving on to the next tab on your browser, something to distract you, something else to do that you will call ‘work’.

The last event attracted 200 people.
This year’s is potentially going to double that number.
The stage had a ‘wow’ factor and yet, it was incredibly daunting.
You got the invite this year, one more time. Again, you hummed and hawed.
Made excuses, told them you would not be able to speak.
And so you just keep walking by these opportunities you call problems or a waste of time.

Do you have an idea you know will work? Yes.
Have you done anything to explore it? No.
Are you actually making excuses? Yes.
Does it keep popping into your head when you find a spare moment or when the busyness of the day begins to settle down? Yes.
And so you keep carrying on, filling your time with lots of stuff to do, while quietly stilling that inner voice that is both bold and scared at the same time.

You have important things to say. But you don’t say them.
You have things that you know you should do. But you don’t do them.
You have ideas you so badly want to explore. But again, you hold back, waiting for the perfect moment to present itself to you. It’s as if you are waiting for something or someone to shout out that it is safe to go try, that this indeed is that moment to jump.

It’s not going to happen.

No one is going to make you do it.
No one is in your head, living your life, thinking your thoughts or dreaming your dreams.
Not everyone is going to understand if you do go explore your path.
Not everyone is going to support your journey.

So, here’s the question?

Will you do it?
Will you do it now?
If not now, then when?
If not at all, why?

#makeithappen

Fear gets to all of us, even those who are successful. But we can’t let it beat us, we need great hacks to beat fear down and get us to a place where we are living the life we want to live. What do you do to beat fear? Please share your thoughts in the comments, as I too want to learn from you.

I run the VerticalDistinct platform to support both Human Resource and Technology professionals. I blog on the entrepreneurial journey. I write for Women of HR, post on LinkedIn and am an Associate Editor at the HR Gazette. Let’s connect, let’s learn from each other. Let me know how I can support you.

 

Master the Art of Writing

Writing is about distilling your thoughts and in that process, learning the skills needed to communicate your ideas persuasively. After all, we communicate so that we can influence.

But good writing takes a lot of time, effort and dedication.

Its beauty is visible when what is complicated is made to look easy.

Two factors that have an impact on your art :

  1. How much you read;
  2. How much you write.

Learn from those around you, who are mastering the same art, with the techniques which work for them. Explore new ways and be curious.

And write.

Write to find your voice.
Write often.
Write with abandon (that’s what editing is for).
Write about many things or write about one thing – it does not matter. And remember that it’s easier to maintain a daily habit than a monthly one.

What works for you? What features are you responding to when you come across good writing? Please share your thoughts in the comments, as I too want to learn from you.

I run the VerticalDistinct platform to support both Human Resource and Technology professionals. I blog on the entrepreneurial journey. I also write for Women of HR and post on LinkedIn. Let’s connect, let’s learn from each other. Let me know how I can support you.

Make the decision to be decisive and watch your life unfold

No matter how much you try, you will never get answers to all of your questions. So if your plan is to get as full a story so that you can have all the relevant facts before you decide, be prepared that it’s not always possible.

So what are you to do when faced with a situation where you need to decide and yet do not have all the information you consider relevant?

Simply, you do the best you can to avail yourself of what you can and move ahead. This is why it is critical that you run your life on the belief that you need to be decisive. There’s a price to be paid for indecision… and you will pay that price.

If you cannot predict all the possibilities, you hedge your bets and go for it.
Often, you need to act first and then recalibrate which is simply another way of saying that you fail yourself forward.

How do you become decisive?

1. When faced with a decision, make one. Sometimes, it will be to file this away for two days while you ponder on the issues. Other times, it will be to come clean and acknowledge what you know you want to decide anyway and then go with that.

2. You take a look around and see what other information you feel is relevant to your making a decision. See how you can extract more information. This might involve a call you need to make, some research you need to do, some notes you need to take to remember key points. The thing is to shore your position up, strengthen yourself in the decision you will make. If it’s a negotiation, capture these points and send them across as a record of what’s transpired. If it involves choosing between A and B, make a list of pros and cons. Even if you don’t rely on the list, the entire process can shed light on where your mind is at and what you truly feel.

3. Tell someone about it. The process of talking about it, explaining the issues and even defending your position will help you decide. Listen to yourself for clues.

4. Write it down. Sometimes, when you have to put pen to paper, it can help crystalise what you need to do.

5. Declutter. Often, this, in itself, is a huge help. Decluttering here is not just about your physical space, it could be your mental space.

Your mind is for having ideas, not holding them.

– David Allen, creator of Getting Things Done.

When you take some time to attend to the things that are niggling away at you, it’s like a huge weight is lifted. And that process can give you the white space you need to properly assess what you need to make a decision on.

6. Accept that you wont and don’t have all the answers.
Understand that you have the right to do-over. And if that’s the case, what’s so scary about deciding now?

7. And the scariest ever – decisions will be made, no matter what.
If you fail to see the power of choice before you, if you decide that you can wait for a period of time that you choose not to define, if nothing has prompted you to believe that your time for deciding is over, then perhaps this, of all things, may move you : decisions get made all the time, whether you realise it or not.

Some consciously, some unconsciously. To truly feel in control, vibrant and proactive, you want to be making those decisions for yourself. Not sliding into them or being left with a decision because the other options have been exhausted. Hard as it may be to accept, if you don’t make a decision, one will be made for you. At some point, by someone or something, by default, by omission.

Who does not want to be in the driver’s seat of their own life? So, make the decision today to be decisive. Watch the power of that choice come into your life and change it for the better.

The Funny Thing About Habits

Besides the fact that they can creep up on you, the one thing that I recently discovered about habits, and which whacked me sideways, is that it doesn’t have to be an action. It can be an emotion.

You could understand the idea that you get into a habit of grabbing a cookie at 3PM every day. But did you think you could get into a habit of being angry… of being irritated…of jumping the gun? Did you think that you could develop a habit around an emotional response? Well, yes, you can.

Until such time you realise and make the connection that you can make a habit of a particular emotion, you may be going down the wrong path of diagnosing your problem and coming up with effective solutions. So, how do you deal with something like this? Here’s what I did.

1. I didn’t give up.

I knew that I had a problem I needed to get fixed. When the pain presented by the problem is greater than the joy derived from continuing as is, you will do what it takes to figure things out. I can’t say that there are quick fixes out there, some things have taken me years to realise and discover. But the key is to figure out what your priorities are. If this is a priority to you, you will find a way. You simply will because you will keep trying and knocking things down, one at a time, until you reach the solution that works. There’s no magic there.

2. Keep an open mind. Keep looking.

I kept reading, looking out for ideas, clues. When all is aligned in that one goal, strangely, it seems like things begin to open up. You see things you realise you had not seen before. You explore new ideas, you test them out, you adapt them to your needs. You keep going.

3. Do something.

This can’t be a theoretical exercise though. If it stays in the realm of something to read and understand only, nothing happens. You have to do something, take action in some way. Persist. The greatest and best way to learn is simply to do, fail, try again. And repeat.

4. Be mindful.

I think it’s fairly easy to go through life without really living. Many already do. Going through the motions, getting caught up in what’s happening around you and trying to keep up, maintaining a particular approach to your work, your relationships and your life… it’s hard to always be mindful. Since I started focusing on this, I can see how painfully slow the growth in this area is. Frequently, I see the mindfulness kicking in after the fact. Or it might kick in halfway when I am reacting to something, as opposed to choosing my response. It is frustrating and it’s in moments like that that I go back to 1, 2, 3 above.

So, what works for you, what do you think?

See the big bump ahead on your road? It doesn’t matter… move towards it anyway!

I’ve been working on building positive habits now far more proactively than ever before. In the past, you could say that my desire to form certain habits was similar to the efforts of most people, in that there was desire but it was certainly not matched by enough follow through.

I used to think that one could stay still and that would be neutral ground. I now believe that there is no such thing as staying still. Whether you choose to act , react or simply do nothing, something is happening. If it’s not you, then it’s happening around you. And it is this that means that you are either moving forward or moving backward.

When it comes to building habits, you’re either moving toward reward or running from pain. In my case, I am running from pain. The pain of seeing the yawning gap between the person I want to be and the person I see myself as.

I’ve taken this problem apart and put it together on so many occasions. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t and most times, the solutions I crafted were shortlived. No matter what the intent, the pain or the drive, things always fell through. And I was left to wonder. If the desire is there, why do the efforts simply not match up? Where was this going wrong? Slowly, things began to dawn on me.

Firstly, solutions do not present themselves to you with neat packaging or some sort of sign screaming what it is. Consequence :  you can’t always identify it as such when you see it.

Secondly, solutions do not always surface immediately. Time needs to be on your side and add a dollop of patience. And distance too.

So, here’s the thing. If the solution is not easily recognisable and if it doesn’t present itself in a timely fashion, what exactly do you do? Time, desire and patience. That’s the combo you need. If you are hellbent on solving something, if you desire something so much that nothing gets in your way, you will get it eventually.

And so the penny finally dropped.

I was looking at the myriad number of changes I needed to make. There weren’t always unifying factors between these different problems. When I decided to tackle each challenge individually, I didn’t have much success.And then, l realised that perhaps, the solution was not in solving each challenge individually.

I needed to find a system instead. An approach that, once devised, would tackle each challenge at its roots. In other words,  I didn’t want to deal with symptoms; I was interested in the root cause. And it was here that I realised the true value of building habits.

If I focused not on solving one challenge but instead, developed a habit that addressed that challenge (and perhaps many others, in the process), I would not only solve the current challenge but I would be sure to resolve any future challenges simply by developing an approach, rather than creating a one-off solution.

Herein lies the beauty of habits. They start out hard and then get easy with time and practice.

And so, down the road of habit building I went. I started with a public statement that I would work on writing more regularly. It was a hard ask early in the day. I failed often but never saw the point in giving up. Once you decide on a goal – and a concrete one at that – and you match that with a public announcement, something switches over in your head. It is as if it’s cemented a place for itself within you.

It took a few months to get to the point where I was writing regularly and I was feeling pretty happy to see these results finally. For starters, I thought that things were moving pretty well. Then, at the point that I believed I was getting this well under way,  I hit a major snag. I had a baby. It’s been two months now and it’s wonderful to have this new addition to my family. But I have to say, I did wonder if the long hard slog to build the habit would be washed away very shortly. It has not.

I have not written as often in the last few weeks. I’ve lost precious time I once had at my disposal. I’ve had to seriously tweak my work commitments and schedule a greal deal to make way for this new change. But building the writing habit – it’s firmly there. I can say the habit has been formed and I just need to keep at it to strengthen it further.

So, I am now considering working more thoroughly on the second habit I’d like to focus on – a greater degree of mindfulness.

Perhaps I am taking on more than I can chew at this juncture. I have yet to fully build on the one habit, hit a snag and yet I feel compelled to establish another new habit. But again, its the battle between running from pain or moving towards pleasure.

The quest for a greater degree of mindfulness is driven by the disparity between how I see myself in my mind’s eye and who I am in reality. Of late, I notice that the me I see is not always the me I present to the outside world. And that’s scary on many levels. Which I will leave for another post.

What do you think?

Why it’s critical that you get organised

I understand that this will not resonate with some people. Some of us are organised and some aren’t. You can’t fight against who you are, right? I am a highly organised person but in recent years, I have found that I’ve dropped the ball a number of times. Strangely, with so many things on my plate – work priorities, personal commitment, social gatherings and then, the very things I want to get done/want to prioritise/yet fall to the bottom of the priority list  – it has become less of an issue when my system fails me. Actually, it’s not so much that it doesn’t bother me – it does. It is the fact that with so many things coming at me, I am at a loss as to what to do. And so I do nothing.

It’s something like spending money when you don’t have any. Ever notice that when you come upon a windfall, it’s hard to decide that you’ll spend it all – legitimately or on a whim. The sum is too big so the decision making gets stalled. But if you were looking at a paltry sum, the kind of sum that really is not worth considering on a day to day basis, you’d make far quicker snap judgements? It seems to go against the grain, but there you have it.

Which brings me back to my failed system. I have been relying on a paper based system for the longest time. I am checklist oriented and I need to see things and be able to refer to them constantly. Key to my feeling on top of my work is adjusting my priorities daily. It’s the first thing I do in the morning and the last thing I do at night.

The online thing doesnt work for me, despite having my computer on 24/7. Yet, my system was very basic, redundant and not very effective in the long run. I stuck to it because it worked (partially) and nothing better seemed to come my way.

Although I had seen a few different online systems, none seemed to speak to me. Some were too clunky, features screaming from every corner, begging to be used. Some too sparse and not giving me enough room to manuevre around. I am not saying they are no good – all of these systems are great. For example, Mission Control is perfect if you want to keep it short  and simple, yet collaborative. Zoho too is superb and completely extensible.

But it was not for me.

Today, I got into Trello and now, I am hooked. (Apparently, I had a Trello account but forgot about it). It’s visual, colourful, has clean lines, is very organised in its layout (surprise!), extensible, free and easy to use from the word go.

I’ve just started using it and already am feeling more in control of what I need to get accomplished. I have a better sense of where things are at, what I need to keep in view (yet not attack just yet) and things I want to accomplish right now. Leo Babauta did a great post on getting organised – The Key Habits of Organisation – which helped get me back on track with this. Leo too uses Trello but the main takeaway here is how : he used a system designed by Ryan Carson of Treehouse. You create a tasks board with lists such as Today, Waiting On, Later, Done. You create your lists of stuff to do and you can move them around between these categories as you progress. For example, something from your Waiting On list may get moved to Today and once completed, moved again to your Done pile.

So why get organised? If I had to come up with three great reasons why this is critical to a person who considers himself not organised, it would be this :

1. Clear some mental space.

There’s so much churning around in your head. Things to do, goals, appointments, work commitments, personal chores to attend to, subscriptions or memberships that may expire in a year from now. There’s no way we can retain all of this information without some form of system or external help. The organised person understands this and relies on external support – whether its having a diary, scheduling reminders, creating checklists etc.

The person who is not organised – let’s call him Joe – believes he will remember when the time comes, realises he does not when the meeting is blown and then continues on the same road, not changing anything in his process, hoping next time, that he will indeed remember. I have seen this played out so many times. Mentally, it’s exhausting for me to watch and just as exhausting for Joe. He knows what he needs to do, but its not in his nature and truthfully, he can’t be bothered to change. Joe believes the pain from the one failed attempt or burnt meeting will be enough to ensure that the next appointment is met. But the pain of one experience is not what ensures you meet your goals – it is in the system you build for yourself. If you do that, you’ve cleared a lot of mental white space for yourself which you can fill to good measure.

2. Achieve success.

If most of what you need to get done is not getting done, you are not successful. Not in the financial or outward sense but in the literal sense that you are not able to do what you set out to do. Because Joe does not set out to forget that sales appointment. He wants to close that deal. Yet, not having a system prevents him from doing so and not tackling the root cause ensures that it keeps happening.

3. Protect your reputation

Let’s face it – if you fail to meet targets, are a no-show at a scheduled appointment, keep forgetting where you leave your keys or folders, you’re not the only one watching. Over time, you will build a reputation and it won’t be the one you set out to create.

I am not saying it is easy to get organised. It’s hard and I believe building a habit is best done daily. Getting organised starts with identifying what the problem is and then working on it by establishing some habits. I am saying it is critical for your own sanity and to ensure you get done what you’d like to get done.

What is easy to do is also easy not to do.

This is simply one of the most fundamental insights we need to wrap our heads around if we are to ever make a significant impact in charting our own lives : What is easy to do is also easy not to do.

With that, I start this post by referencing what Jeff Olson said in his book, The Slight Edge. Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success.

Worthy of capture here, is Jeff’s reasoning behind this :

“Everything that you need to do to transform your life is easy to do…Every action that any of these goals requires is easy to do. Here’s the problem : every action that is easy to do, is also easy not to do. Why are these simple yet crucial things easy not to do? Because if you don’t do them, they won’t kill you…at least, not today. You won’t suffer, or fail or blow it – today. Something is easy not to do when it won’t bankrupt you, destroy your career, ruin your relationships or wreck your health – today.”

What is this about?

This is about an approach to take to your own life. The reality is that we can choose one of two ways to live our life – intentionally with purpose or unintentionally. The life which is secured by a singular purpose and is lived with intent is one that is well thought out. It has been defined in all the important ways and has been weighed. This is not to say that you do this in one fell swoop but it is done nevertheless, over the course of time. Its ease, if there is any at all, lies in the fact that your life has been thought out and decided upon.

The unintentional life is one where any sense of purpose is not central to it. It may be thought about but although inroads are made, these continue to be derailed by the vagaries of daily life. Consequently, the unintentional life is one easily swayed by what passes by.

Whether one lives a life of intent or not, the outward manifestation of this decision is rarely visible to others and unless one chooses, is also not much visible to oneself. These decisions are only truly visible when you take stock, when you look back and reflect on the decisions and choices made and in the outcomes present.

What should you take away from this?

1. You need to figure out what you want to do and how.

If you don’t do this, you have no real intent and whatever comes your way, is what propels or compels you forward. Or backward as the case may be. The same can be said about decisions in life, small or large. Sometimes, you feel that you can avoid making a decision or that you can put it off to a later time. But life moves on, the decision doesn’t get made and you fool yourself into thinking that you’ve not decided. But in effect, the combination of the time lapse and your unwillingness to make a decision is a decision in itself.

2. You are on your own ie you chart your course, whether you decide to do so or not.

There is no one to back you, chase you or determine your course of action for you. Of course, there are bound to be situations when others will come into your fold and may even, attempt to make decisions for you, about your own life. This is not what I’m referring to. What I mean here is that ultimately, you take charge or don’t take charge of your life’s direction.

People, whether family or friends, may take a passing interest or may be invested in how you move ahead in certain areas of your life. However, ultimately, there is  no one with access or a full understanding of your entire psychological or mental history/state of being. Therefore, they are less likely to understand your priorities or how your decisions are being executed in the first place. Only you are well placed to do so, and take the necessary action, should you decide. Therefore, you should take advantage of your freedom, yes freedom, to make and execute on these decisions that are rightfully yours instead of leaving it to fate, chance, circumstance or anything else.

3. The results you see before you may or may not be linked to your action. Objective analysis only will determine if the results are linked to your actions. You must determine this instead of just seeing what seems obvious.Thinking of this, I am reminded about my ongoing fascination with children’s need for adequate sleep. The point I make here will illustrate what I mean. (On a side note, I highly recommend the book, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr Marc Weissbluth).

So, on the point about sleep, all children need adequate sleep. Parents know and understand this. However, there are times when despite what they know, parents may choose to engage in counter-productive activity. What fuels this kind of behaviour is their assessment of the situation. When they engage in this kind of activity and see that no noticeable ‘harm’ has been generated consequent to skipping a few afternoon naps or that children are regularly being put to bed too late, they come to certain conclusions. They see that the children appear fine. They see that there are no ill effects. They combine these findings and then conclude that their actions are not negative in any way, and thereafter, continue doing it. What they have done is not so much sought actual proof as to whether their actions are detrimental but sought proof to justify their behaviour.

These are two completely different things. What they are doing is finding the activity or supporting action that best supports whatever theory they hold or want to believe in. So, using this example, if a parent decides that she will keep a child awake at night a little longer, she may understand that in the long run, sleeping late is not a good habit. However, if there are no noticeable negative side effects to what she has implemented, the likelihood is that she may conclude that there’s ‘no harm done’, right? What would be so wrong if she continued to do what she was doing? This is what we call seeing what we want to see.

Why should all this matter?

It comes back to one of Jeff’s primary arguments – that what is easy to do is also easy not to do. If we believe in autonomy, if we believe in our ability and right to direct our own life, and we believe in choice, then being able to do things that affect our ability to direct our own life plays a fundamental role. But as we all know, just because something is simple to understand, does not make it easy to master.

While I believe this book is truly phenomenal yet simple, this may strangely not be a book for everyone. I highly recommend it but I also believe you need to be in the right frame of mind, and to some extent, at the right place and time in your life, to absorb the message within. If not, none of it will matter or make sense.

I am grateful.

I see my choices. Then I see the things that I actually want to do and yet am not able to. There’s a daily battle raging internally as I reprioritise and shift things on my to-do list, responding, pleading, pleasing and chipping away.

And then a moment arrives. A special moment, one unexpected moment and everything changes. Your perspective shifts and all your earlier choices and priorities melt away. This one moment has redefined things for you.

For this, I am grateful, alongside a few other things :

1. Grateful that despite my flawed nature, I seem to be able to bounce back and to see possibilities more than the heartaches and challenges.

2. Grateful for second chances. And third chances. Fourth chances and the list goes on. For every single day that I get to do what I aim to do and yet fail, only to begin afresh tomorrow.

3. Grateful for small victories and little pleasures. They smell so sweet and perfume the journey.

4.  Grateful for opportunities I can see. Not so happy about the ones I am blinded to, but I guess ignorance is bliss. But definitely, glad to be able to seize good things when they come by.

5. Grateful for having patience, staying power and resilience. If I didn’t have these, I would not last this journey.

6. Grateful for those who can see the person I am trying to be, rather than the one in front of them.

7. Grateful for today, grateful for tomorrow.

PS pretty grateful that this habit building thing seems to be working now. Have been working on it for some weeks now and this is the first time I have posted three days in a row. Bliss.

Make it meaningful – make it count for something

If your life is anything like mine – and I’ve come to realise that for many of us, there are more things keeping us connected and alike than there are things which keep us apart – then I know that time is as much a commodity, and a precious reserve for you, as it is for me.

I am sure it puzzles you as much as it does me, how all of us, who are each allocated the same number of hours per day, deal with things so differently and achieve such different results as well. What makes him more successful than you? How is he able to achieve ‘more’ than you?

Yes, he may have more money and money can buy you more resources, more convenience and allow you to take shortcuts that perhaps others may not have access to. Yet, I know that not everything links back wholly to whether a person has enough money only. Much of it must lie in the approach, the daily habits, the strategies you put in place, how you look at and consider issues and perspectives as they come before you.

Here is one more thing – I have heard and read and it confirms what I have long suspected as well – it lies in the choices you make. I am not talking purely about the big decisions, those life changing decisions only. I am referring to the daily choices and decisions you make. And here is one for you to consider.

Make it meaningful – make it count for something.

How many times have you sat in a meeting you didn’t see value in or one where you provided, let’s be honest, zero value? You were neither interested, nor able to contribute yet you sat there.

How many times have you engaged in repetitive activity that really brought no meaty results but it provided you with some relief as if to say, that the act of doing it was work and therefore justified?

How many times have you attended parties or gatherings you were interested in yet thereafter discovered that it was nothing like what you imagined and yet you stayed and watched the time go by?

Your life is made up of the small decisions you make. You’d like to think big picture all the time, like your character is sewn by only the big decisions you make, the monumental ones you crave. Yet, sometimes, a big picture is really a series of small pictures all interlinked.

Life lies in the balance. Not everything is judged or weighed purely in relation to the big picture. Many things are just as important  – like the little decisions you make daily or often enough. Consequently, you may be affected and you may affect the little things in life as well. And watch out too for those repetitive little decisions you make lest they turn from one offs into a habit.

With time being ever so precious, with it slipping through our fingers at such an amazing rate, with the speed at which so much of what you do and say can be hastened and brought to bear, you owe it to yourself to bring greater meaning to your life, not purely in terms of big decisions you face but also in the small ones made.

Your time is as precious as the person next to you and it is imperative that you choose how you spend it wisely. To let it just flow by, to let the minutes tick by into hours and the hours into days and then be led to believe that the life you lead has meaning is a pretense. You’d like to think it doesn’t matter because you may believe that it’s a case of minutes or just a half day lost … and anyway, what’s the big deal?

But if it’s not about a one off decision but rather an approach you employ to many things that come across your path, you are not really referring to minutes lost, but considerable chunks of your time. Chunks of time that once lost, are irretrievable. Chunks of time that when you look back on your life, you will be unable to explain away.

I would say, that you have choice. You can attribute meaning to what you do and how you do it and you owe it to yourself to make your choices and your time count for something. Not purely for others, but also for yourself.

Extremes can help you make decisions

Have you ever been in a situation where you had ten dollars and you had to make a call on how to spend that? That decision was pretty easy. And then there was the thousand dollar decision… and that decision was not so easy.

Extremes : they can help you make decisions. I can’t say that they are necessarily better decisions but they are quick. There’s something finite about what extreme situations present – either this or that, either here or there – that somehow make the whole decision making process clearer, shorter and more distinct.

I’ve been unwell these last few days. The blogging habit that I’ve been working on has encountered some tough times; and so, I can feel myself stumbling again. But somehow I feel like I am stumbling closer to success (than towards failure) if that makes any sense to you. Having started this habit, I noticed a mindfulness about blogging now. It is top of my mind. Every day. I feel that it helps.

I’ve had to wipe stuff of my to-do list to take some well-earned rest. I’ve had to do this to pull through. Consequently, it’s been easy to make quite a few decisions that I usually grapple with every day. I found myself saying no to most things in the last five days. It is something I am not used to yet strangely, it has brought relief. There is relief in letting go.

And so I come to the conclusion : Firstly, you know yourself best. So make the best decision for yourself. Secondly, a quick decision is better than no decision at all, or even a slow decision sometimes.

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