It’s do-over, again and again. It’s done so often that you forget there’s a name for it. Call it passion, endurance, resilience or just sheer madness. For that is what it can feel like sometimes.
It’s your ability to fall and then keep getting up. Falling doesn’t matter, what matters is what goes on inside your head – you making sense of what happened and turning it to your advantage. You need to or it loses its appeal. You need to see how it can help you or better you.
What does resilience look like for me?
It’s always seeing the big picture because when I have that in front of me, it doesn’t matter what the little detours or scrapes may be – it’s par for the course. It doesn’t mean you stop having out of body experiences, looking down at your situation, wondering what the heck you’re doing – again!
But therein lies the importance of a life that is driven or imbued with meaning or purpose.
When you are moving towards something, whatever that goal may be, everything either falls into place or out of the way, in line with what you’re trying to do. Maybe it does, or maybe that’s just the way you prefer to see it. Either way, resilience doesn’t happen if it’s not purpose-fuelled.
What it comes down to is how badly you want something. Jeff Olson, author of The Slight Edge. Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success put it so eloquently when he said,
Here’s the problem : every action that is easy to do, is also easy not to do.
Resilience, while a good trait to have, is something I don’t see as an end in itself. What you need to aim for is the thing that you know you need/want to do. And then go do it.